There are times when I feel I've failed as a Mom. Today is one of those times.
My youngest CR will not be going on to the 1st grade next year. :(
During our parent-teacher conference I heard the teacher say things like, "maturity level", "discipline", and "structure". All things I believe my son possess. So I felt like I haven't done my job. I didn't spend enough time on his homework, or enough time reading to him. I didn't explain to him enough about how to sit and concentrate on his schoolwork.
So I sulked all the way home and then had to find a way to break it to him. As I told him that he wasn't going to the 1st grade, I saw the hurt, fear, and confusion set in on him. Poor little man. He began to cry and say he would do more homework, but he "didn't want to".
We all talked as a family, and made the decision to work with him more diligently over the next few months, so that maybe he could be ready to re-test for 1st by the time fall comes around. We are instituting an hour of homework time from now until September everyday day. We, all 4 of us, will work with him to help him find the best way for him to learn.
I know that this is his battle, but I still can't help but feel like I didn't do my job as a Mom.
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I truly understand your feelings. You are not alone. It hurts to watch them struggle as I did the same with Jordan and seeing the hurt because she had to repeat the 4th grade. It will establish a new yearning in him to want to do better and succeed. It is a learning process for both of you and a hurdle you will get over.
ReplyDeleteFirst, you need to stop and realize that C is a small little guy with a big world on his shoulders. He's been through a lot in his little life. I know it may feel to you as though you have failed them. But, would you rather him to into the 1 at grade now, struggle through and probably only continue to struggle? Or allow him one more year of learning and maturing so that when he does get to first grade, he will be on the same level as the other kiddos?
ReplyDeleteI know it's a tough decision for you as a mom. But, it's another chance, another year for C to grow. And because of that, hopefully there won't be any struggling when he does start 1st. Don't feed off the negative of this. Feed off the positive and he will too. :) love you!
Thanks ladies for the encouragement! I'm glad that or family had pulled together to help him. I was proud that the other two boys ordered to help tutor him.
ReplyDeleteChristi, I had no idea Jordan had struggled.